Why Me.... Its a part of Life !! Accept it !!

Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983..
 

From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: "Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"?
 

To this Arthur Ashe replied:

"The world over, 50 million  children start playing tennis, 5 million learn to play tennis, 500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the  grand slam, 50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the finals, when I was holding a cup I never asked GOD 'Why me?'. And today in pain I should not be asking GOD 'Why me?' "

Without Him...

Without him my nights don't pass..
Without him there is no peace for a moment..
Without him how do I live..
 

Without him I appease him..
Without him I tried to please him..
Without him my heart cheats me..

Without him, I reach him..
Without him, I hug him..
Without he being here, my heart is in him only..

The Most Beautiful Spot ....

There is a place you can come where everything is beautiful. Tourists go from place to place looking for beauty. They try to take beauty from that place. They only get tired and tanned. Yet the most beautiful spot anywhere is right here. When you come here, you find that wherever you are, everything is so beautiful. 

Where is this place? Don't look here and there. Where do you go? Its within you. 

When you come here, then any place is beautiful. Then wherever you go, you add beauty there. 

If you are unhappy, even the moon is irritating to you. Sweet things are nauseating, music is disturbing. 

When you are calm and centred inside, noise is musical, clouds are magical, rain is liquid sunshine. Book yourself on a trip to this most beautiful place in the universe. It goes on and on.

You feel a lot of love for someone and they do not take it. What do you do?

1. Get frustrated 

2. Turn the love into hatred and wish for revenge 

3. Again and again remind them how much you love them and how little they love you 

4. Become fussy and cranky 

5. Throw tantrums 

6. Feel humiliated and try to protect your respect 

7. Resolve never to love again 

8. Feel hurt and mistreated 

9. Try to be aloof and indifferent ...

and you have seen that none of these work. They only make the situation worse. 

What is the way out of this? How do you maintain your lovingness? 

1. Have patience and change your expression of love. 

2. Be centered and limit your expression of love. Sometimes over-expression of love puts people off. 

3. Take it for granted that they love you too and accept their style of expression. For example, a mother with three kids. One child talks, one child does not talk, one child throws tantrums. Mother's love is the same irrespective of their behaviour. 

4. Genuinely acknowledge their love for you. This will turn your demand into gratefulness and the more you are grateful in life, the more love comes your way. 

5. Know that hurt is part of love and take responsibility for it. 
6.There may be circumstances that others love you back but are just not willing to commit... accept their reason.. it is a part of life

When you move away from your center, you will definitely get hurt and the nature of worldliness is misery.

Don't make a mistake by pointing out mistakes!

Do not tell a person a mistake he knows. What's the use of pointing out a mistake that he knows he has committed? By doing this, you will only make them feel more guilty, defensive or resentful and this will only create more distance. You should only point out the mistake of a person who does not know, but who wants to know. Do not point out the mistake of a person who knows but doesn't want you to know. Often people know the mistakes that they have committed, but they do not want you to tell them. Think of the usefulness of your comments.

Before pointing out the mistake of a person, see whether your comments in any way will help to improve the situation, foster love or bring harmony. A magnanimous person would not pick on the mistakes of others and make them feel guilty. However, they would correct them with compassion and care, not through words but through attitudes.